I am the Happy (Mom) Madhatter. I am a follower of Christ, wife, mother, counselor, DIY’er, thrifter, low-key feminist, and humor-enthusiast! A mouthful to digest, huh?
That should help explain the name. Sometimes life can get a little mad, and I just put my hat and step on through it. I am already a writer and blogger so I came here to Herstun just to share a message with you. I hope that you enjoy and follow along on my page for more updates. (And maybe I will reappear here, too 🙂 )
So, why have I only written and published a whomping 1 blog in the past 1.5 years?
Today is the day I resume writing this very personal and self-proclaimed enlightening blog with efforts to bring perspective, but more importantly to engage and relate to others on a real level.
This is something I am very passionate about and if I can be honest, it is one of the main ways I keep my mental health in-check!
So, why am I finding it difficult even at this moment to just write!?!
take a step back
for a second.
Aside from being very passionate about writing and sharing —
I have been asked out of the blue, by 2 different friends (who don’t know each other), within a 7-day-period to write a blog post.
I certainly take that as divine intervention.
But as I willingly proceeded, I began to ask myself —
What has really been holding me back?
“It doesn’t have to be perfect, just write dammit”Me to myself in a moment of epiphany.
I don’t even know what perfection actually looks like or how I would know when I had arrived at it.
But I do know that when I am writing out my daily to-do list —
Perfection is somewhere subconsciously embedded between doing a load of laundry and picking the kids up from school, between picking out an outfit or cooking a meal.
Striving for perfection is constantly motivating what I do, how and when I do, and ultimately what I end up not doing.
Merriam-Webster defines perfection as —
The state of being free as possible from all flaws or defects.
Well, I don’t know ANYONE who fits this description.
… Especially not me!
To be free of flaws is an impossible feat!
Even the perfect gardens have weeds.
So why do we constantly strive for perfection??
Perhaps it is our ill attempt to conceal our flaws and to gain a false sense of validation and security from others.
Ok, consider this — how many of you take 20 of the same picture —
in order to get the perfect one to post to social media?
How does it benefit you in the long run for people to only see you looking your best on The Gram (all while feeling your worst) but with nobody knowing a thing about who you really are and what you are really going through?
It doesn’t exactly communicate to people that you could use a shoulder to cry on or support for that matter.
I will admit, I am guilty of concealing flaws but honestly what I have learned over time is —
IT’S EXHAUSTING… IT’S UNNECESSARY!!
And more importantly…NOBODY CARES!!
This is all pressure I have put on MYSELF for reasons that are not really even understood.
What ever happened to getting an “A for effort”, doing your best, striving to be good, etc?
Instead of striving for perfection we should strive to expose our flaws with confidence!
After all, these are the things that make us special, unique, and HUMAN.
With that being said, I will expose myself first —
Ahem… Clears throat…
My Christian walk is not always my top priority —
I have moments when I lack confidence regarding mothering —
My relationship with my spouse ain’t all roses every day —
My feet are not my best asset —
I am NOT where I want to be in my career —
I have a hard time admitting when I am wrong.
Okay, so technically this list could go on but you get the point.
Buuuut just in case you don’t get the point of me spilling my own tea —
I am basically trying to say that while flaws can be undesirable, in my case they don’t negate the fact that God still loves me, my kids are still alive, I love my husband.
….lol he doesn’t mind my feet…
And my career is moving along — Just not exactly at the speed of light.
The flaws I mentioned don’t refute the fact that despite my shortcomings,
I am beautiful and still possess so much value.
Striving for perfection has gotten in the way of me seeing this and enjoying the very moment I am presently in.
I’ve come to realize that everybody has flaws.
Flaws build character and promote growth.
How can you level up in life if everything is already perfect?
If I didn’t have flaws —
I wouldn’t have a story —
and thus nothing to write about.
I would have nothing to share and nothing to connect with others about.
Consider what striving for perfection has hindered you from.
For me before this moment, it was writing this blog, but there have been many instances.
So, thank you for sharing some of my insecurities with me —
If I see you in the streets, don’t mention my feet! Lol.
In closing, in this garden called life, I encourage you to pull those weeds of perfection, water your garden of flaws —
Written By the Happy (Mom) Madhatter. Edited By Herstun.
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